Why write about it now?
Great question. I chose to write a post about my experience in a sorority because I want to squash the perception that women join sororities to make friends. Granted, probably the majority do. I did not. I joined because I wanted more in preparation for my life after college. I want to share a little about my experiences and the positives/negatives of joining.
Did you pay for your friends?
Joining a sorority grants women access to brilliant female minds passionate philanthropists, and imaginative peers. Yes, you pay membership dues. No, you don’t pay for your friends. To be quite honest, I basically had a small pool of friends. Did I pay for them? No. I earned their respect, pestered them to hang out, and created friendships from what was once nothing. One of my favorite people on the planet was in the same sorority as I was. We had an opportunity to grow together in college, and we certainly wouldn’t have met had it not been for our organization.
Why I joined a sorority
Ok, so the big question aside, let me answer the second biggest question: I did NOT join a sorority for friends. I anticipated that to get an amazing job after college, I would need to step up my game and have several accolades and accomplishments under my belt. With this driving thought, I set out to conquer the sorority food chain. I was selected to be on the executive board during my freshman year. By my sophomore year, I was the Executive Vice President.
Leadership positions allowed me to connect with smart, ambitious women who taught me a thing or two about passion for success. In addition to attending leadership summits and holding an executive position, I learned about stewardship and leadership through serving. Had I not been a part of an organization with structured philanthropic goals, I might not have been as active in volunteering.
You get out what you put in
The experience I had as a new member of a sorority was bright and shiny. However, the shine eventually dulls. I eventually drifted from the sorority and particular members because my priorities shifted. I was no longer interested in engaging with women who didn’t have the exact same goals and ambitions as I did. Do I regret my experience? No way. I had clear expectations going into a sorority, so I found I wasn’t harshly let down when other areas of the experience fell short.
As with anything in life, you get out what you put in. I put in enough interest and motivation to get out what I needed.